Anger is allowed. Hitting still gets stopped.
Toddler anger can be loud, fast, and physical. One second your child is frustrated; the next they are screaming, throwing, kicking, or swinging a hand at someone they love.
When Your Toddler Is Angry: Big Anger, Safe Hands helps parents of children ages 2–5 respond without shaming the feeling or ignoring unsafe behavior.
Inside the guide
- A practical explanation of why anger can become physical so quickly in the toddler years.
- Connect → Limit → Lead support for hitting, throwing, kicking, screaming, refusal, and public anger.
- Short scripts for stopping unsafe behavior without long lectures.
- Quick-help pages for the moments when your own brain goes blank.
- Ways to teach safer anger outlets and replacement skills once the moment is calmer.
- Support for staying steadier when your child’s anger triggers your own.
- Cheat sheets, a response flowchart, and printable tools.
What it can sound like
Hitting: “You’re angry. I won’t let you hit. I’m moving your hands back.”
Throwing: “You can be mad. I won’t let you throw that. I’m putting it somewhere safe.”
Afterward: “That was a really big anger moment. Next time we can stomp, squeeze, or say ‘I’m mad.’”
This is for you if…
- Your child’s anger feels intense, physical, or unpredictable.
- You want a gentle approach that still stops unsafe behavior immediately.
- You freeze when anger turns into hitting or throwing.
- You need realistic scripts you can use without sounding like a parenting textbook.
Your child does not need to be ashamed of anger. They do need help learning what their body can safely do with it.
Digital product. Instant access to the downloadable guide after purchase.
Annie –
This was really helpful, it really helped with helping my toddler with his anger – and it helped me as a mom a loooooot!
Charlotte –
This was a very good guide, it’s more than just information, it gave a lot of value
Nova –
Wow, if I would have had this 2 years ago, it would have saved a lot of grey hair, lol!
Ashley –
I feel so much better after this guide, i can finally help my daughter through her anger, and she behaves so much better now <3
Monica –
I felt so helpless when my son started having anger, I couldn’t help him. I knew he was so overwhelmed by emotions, but I did not have the keys to help him. Now I can finally help him through, and I already see so much improvements.
Othelia –
When my son started to get angry, he would just hit, hit and hit. Throw things and shout. Naturally, I shouted back at him, it didn’t make things better. I tried to find what to do about it, and I found this book. This is pure gold! Thank you for this, it has helped me so much in helping my son <3
Christina –
I love this book, it helped me understand why my son has so much anger, and it helped me to help him to release it. He is calmer than he has ever been <3 thank you!!
Sarah –
I think they should have this book in school, like a “welcome to parenthood” class. Id I would have known this from the beginning, my life, my daughters, sons and husbands lives would have been so much easier, lol!